How can I get my son with Aspergers to do things besides computer and video games? He just does not want to go out and do things!

Many parents speak of the same problem: their child spends far too much time on the computer or playing games. Video and computer games are addicting for anyone, but kids with Aspergers are especially fond of the repetition that can be comforting. The games are both predictable and entertaining. ..while it's important your son enjoys his time on the computer and video, it's also important he get out into the world and remains active.

 My advice is to play on his passions, in this case gaming. Find other kids in the area and start a gaming “club” of sorts, where you can rotate homes and have what seemingly is a playgroup with video games.  Set limits for the computer that allow him ample playing time, but also allow him to socialize, or spend time outdoors. Video game  obsession is common amongst all kids, and while it can be hard to control, it's not entirely impossible. Depending on the age  your son is, a part time job reviewing or testing games can also be something to look into. Your local community college may even offer smaller, intimate classes for a future gamer, and while getting your son to agree that it sounds like something he may like to try may be a challenge, it also may give you peace of mind that all that gaming is for a good cause.

 If you are keen on socialization and activities that don't involve gaming, try to find an Aspergers support group in the area. This is a great way for both you and your son to meet folks. You can search your towns website, yahoo groups, or Meetup.com (a website for social groups) to find resources in the area that can benefit you. Getting together at parks, or museums is one way to get you and your son out of the house and meeting other folks.

 When it comes to video games and summer vacation, you'll need to be firm. Giving in to your son sounds [and is] much easier than insisting he get outside for a bit, or partake in other activities. Set limits, stick with them, and both you and your son will enjoy the summer together. If you can, try to devise a system that keeps track of your sons video game time. For every hour he spends outdoors, or engaged in other activities, he can “earn” 20 minutes on the computer. To some parents this seems juvenile, but it works!

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Dave Angel