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I get a lot of feedback from the parents that I work who say that having a child diagnosed with Aspergers can be very challenging at times. It can have a negative impact on families and even contribute to family breakdowns, relationship difficulties and divorce. This feedback is also supported by academic research.

In this Parents Department I outline these challenges and offer simple and practical ways to resolve them whether you are a single parent, experiencing some kind of relationship problems or need some help to support other family members. I also look at proactive ways to stop people getting to such difficult situations in the first place.

How can I get my son's peers to understand him (he has Aspergers), without 'showing up' my son?
How can I get my son's peers to understand him (he has Aspergers), without 'showing up' my son? It is not easy being different, especially when you are a child. Kids can be cruel. They fall easily to peer pressure, even when they know right from wrong. The way other kids treat a child with Asperger's Syndrome can be very damaging to his self-esteem. In addition, most kids will not take the time to understand another's differences. This is where you come in. Since school takes up most of your son's time, this is the area in which to begin. You can help create a more pleasant environment for your son. Here are a few suggestions to consider... . . . keep reading
What support groups are there for an adult male (26 years old) with Aspergers? How do I find out where he can get help? He has social anxiety, doesn't work and has no friends.
There are several places you can look to find support for an adult with Asperger's Syndrome. Begin with finding treatment for his social anxiety. Speak with his physician about finding talk therapy fo . . . keep reading
How do you know when an child with Aspergers honestly understands what "talking back" means? Also, do AS young adults tend to talk "under" their breath (making comments that are not appropriate when confronted about a behavior etc.)?
Children with Asperger's typically have a difficult time understanding how conversation and social interaction work. While neuro-typical children might develop a sense of what is an appropriate thing to say in a certain situation, children with Asperger's have a very hard time with that ... . . . keep reading
I need help getting other parents and therapists to take my biggest concerns with my son (who has Aspergers) behaviors seriously and give me sound actual advice when it comes to handling his educational and social needs, instead of just trying meds all the time and telling me to go home and try to ignore his negative behaviors.
Dealing with medical professionals can be intimidating.  They have the education and the licenses that make them specialists in their fields.  They can diagnose a condition and offer treatme . . . keep reading
How do I get other people to realize that Aspergers is a difference not a disability?
It is all about perspective. Some people choose to see light in the darkness, while others choose to see the darkness in the light. Same with the glass half full of water. Or, is it half empty? You obviously have an optimistic view of Asperger's, so that will help as you try to convince others. We definitely influence the people around us ... . . . keep reading
How can I get people that I meet in society (strangers and non-strangers) to accept and support my daughter with Aspergers?
As a parent, you want society to accept your children. You want them to be successful, educated, concerned, and compassionate adults. As the parent of a child with Asperger's Syndrome, you want (and deserve) all of these things for that child. However, society is not something you, as an individual, can control. It is a living and breathing entity, influenced by its members. In other words, you cannot always get what you want from society. So, what do you do? . . . keep reading
How can I get help with respite/child care for my child with Aspergers?
There's no question about the love you feel for your child, but let's face it. Caring for a child with Asperger's Syndrome can get stressful, tiring, and lonely. When you find yourself avoiding social situations because you're uncomfortable leaving your child, it's time to find an alternative plan. You can't spend 100% of your time caring for others without time to care for yourself. When preparing to take a plane trip, the flight crew reminds the passengers to apply their own oxygen masks before assisting others. In other words, you will be worthless unless you take care of yourself first ... . . . keep reading
I have Medicaid and there is no treatment for my child except through the county and they are backlogged two years. We are only receiving school counseling. It is a nightmare. Do we have any rights to appeal?
Medicaid is wonderful when it works. Even though this health care option is a federal program, each state is responsible in part, for funding the program. Because of this, each state has developed their own guidelines for eligibility and services. Children with disabilities are usually accepted into the Medicaid program as their primary health care coverage ... . . . keep reading
How do I get daughter with Aspergers to accept help?
Getting your child to accept help is difficult for any parent, but can be especially problematic for the parent of a child with Asperger's ... . . . keep reading
I really want to know what makes my son with Aspergers happy and I want to be able to help him with this. It is heartbreaking to watch a child who used to laugh and love learning, withdraw into himself and not know how to interact with peers.
Every parent's dream is to watch their baby grow into a happy, well-adjusted child. You are right. It is heartbreaking to watch your child suffer. Thankfully, there are things you can do to get your son back on a happier, fulfilling course ... . . . keep reading
How do I get other family members to understand that his behaviors are not deliberate? In addition, some people do not understand that when the child with Asperger's does something unacceptable he is very remorseful later. What can I do?
Children with Asperger's Syndrome do things that the rest of the world considers excessive, unkind, or just plain mean. We call them rude. We label them as weird, quirky, aggressive, and sometimes crazy. When a person is not educated on a condition like Asperger's and they don't see what it looks like daily, they can be quick to make judgments. You hear more about Asperger's Syndrome lately, but not everyone knows exactly what it is. Let's face it. Asperger's Syndrome is complicated. Even if you have a child with Asperger's, it still can be difficult to shed light on all that the condition entails. Here are a few tips that will help create peace and understanding within your family. . . . keep reading
I am a pre-pregnancy counsellor and from all the published literature, I understand that there is no molecular/genetic diagnosis of Asperger's syndrome and hence, we cannot offer a prenatal diagnosis for a future sibling to the parents. However, have there been any new advances on this front? Secondly, what could we quote as recurrence risk if the parents have one affected child with Asperger's syndrome?
Studies have been done on families and twins that suggest that Asperger's Syndrome and other Autism Spectrum Disorders have a genetic component. A specific gene or marker for Asperger's has not been identified. Because the symptoms of Asperger's Syndrome can vary so widely, it is thought that perhaps more than one gene causes Asperger's syndrome ... . . . keep reading
I am worried that my teenaged son with Aspergers is becoming more reliant on alcohol to cope with his low feelings. Is this common and what can I do to help him?
The teen years can be precarious when under the influence of alcohol. A teen's peer group often sees alcohol use as a rite of passage. Teens think to be accepted by the crowd, you have to be willing to take some risks. These risks are ... . . . keep reading
What kind of party games would you suggest for my son who has Aspergers and is 12? He's having a few people from school and some family over maybe 10 people.
Birthday parties can be uncomfortable for children with Asperger's Syndrome. People, noise, sights, and sounds can be overwhelming. However, your son is at a great age for a party. He has seen a few birthdays, so he has a sense for what a party entails. With a bit of preparation you can plan a party that he and his friends will enjoy ... . . . keep reading
Sometimes I just get so stressed as a parent of a child with Aspergers. Can you give me some good and low cost ways to help me relax?
Parenting is definitely not for the faint of heart. It can be a stress-filled existence, especially when your child has Asperger's Syndrome. The added worries of therapies, special education, social classes, medical appointments, medication, and counseling sessions.You get the picture. All of these things are added to the basic job of being a parent and running a household. The saying, "you must take care of yourself before you can take care of others" comes into play here. It is imperative that you ... . . . keep reading
We are planning a family holiday this year with our child who has Aspergers - any tips?
There is just nothing better than a family holiday! Asperger's Syndrome should not stand in the way of a fun family adventure. With a little advanced planning and extra consideration, you can arrange a trip that will be a great memory for years to come ... . . . keep reading
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